The big confusion lately seems to be caused by technology. Yes, we live in a world of instant everything. Instant coffee. Instant GPS. Instant messaging.
In the past week, I've had more than one friend get asked out by men over the age of 30 via text message or Facebook chat. And sometimes it's then slightly confusing for the girl. Is he just inviting me to an event? Is he taking me out on a date? Is it a mass text? Should I invite m other friends? How do I respond if I'm not sure what it is?
I'm not trying to make fun of anyone...but honestly I'm curious, is it OK for a man to ask out a woman on a date via text or instant message?
7 comments:
No way! A guy needs to man up and actually call the girl. Yes, rejection is harder hearing it from her mouth instead of over a text or IM, but texting and IMing leave too much room for interpretation or mis-interpretation.
Face to face, or maybe over the phone only, and be clear about it.
Ross Dixon says the man needs to ask either in person or on the phone and say that he would like to take you out. Funny that the one I'm dating now is the first one who ever actually asked me -- and we've stuck together for a while :)
Also, the adventures in the mountains sound phenomenal! How fabulous!
I think it's fine to ask a girl out by phone or text. As long as the guy communicates clearly about what he wants, the method of communication doesn't matter. If they're unclear, then they've brought issues upon themselves.
There is an advantage to calling for the guys in that they get an instant response. If they email or text or facebook, they may not get an instant response and they'll have to wonder about it for a while. If the girl was just so-so about the guy, she may have time to think about it to let him down gently over email whereas she might say yes on the phone because she didn't want to be mean. Food for though...
As a girl, I agree with Thomps, Richard, and Sarah above. My respect rises for the guy when there is clarity and risk taking involved during the process of asking the girl out directly, either in person or over the phone.
me (23) and my friend (28) say NO!
Yes, of course. Why is it acceptable to communicate every other sentiment and request electronically but asking for a date via text or IM is taboo?
Puritans!
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